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Meaningful Conversation from the Unexpected

I was having this conversation with the maintenance guy, and it’s now twice that we had such a real talk even though it was so short. The first time was when I was locked out of my apartment when the battery on my door fob went out and now when the light bulb went out on the overhead stove. That is one of the few things I like about renting is that you don’t necessarily have to pay for any maintenance work.

But getting back to our conversation, no matter who or what we do in our lives, you can have some of the most meaningful and real conversations with just about anyone. This man from just a simple set of words shined some light onto something that has clouded my mind that I’ve been trying to figure out for so long and it literally gave me goosebumps when I just realized what I said to him out loud.

An example of what this was is that for well over 15+ years I been a commissioner for a fantasy football league and even though I don’t get enough credit (as most of us don’t), we still do it. This year my nephew who convinced me to get back to co-commission with him for now our 5th year, we wanted to do something special. Since last season, he talked about doing a newsletter for our league of close friends and family, which now has been turned into a reality. I wanted to help out with this and what I contributed was making this sort of Sportscenter type of programming to put on YouTube. It’s of course my own style and weird humor but a weekly report just for the league.

So far, we’re officially 6 weeks in and it’s been going great. It was the one thing that lit a fire in me to actually produce videos that I haven’t been doing in almost 2 years now. But the key element, or probably elements for me was to take perfection out of this and just have fun with it. Although, it’s not much but it is meaningful and by doing this, I wanted our league specifically to be why we’re one of those fun leagues everyone can appreciate.

And to get back to the maintenance man, he told me how even though we’re constantly moving forward so rapidly in life and with AI, it starts to take away jobs and how we’re forgetting the finer things we’ve done in the past that got us there. And with what I’m doing here is a great example of getting us back to that feeling. He said he believes in me and no matter how little it is or who it’s from, when you talk to someone, things like this here gave me hope and I was incredibly appreciative of him for that.

Something people tend to talk about is how with YouTube specifically, we’re so focused on the algorithm and trends that we start to lose touch on our own creativity and having that old-school style of the early YouTube days. This is something I started working on. But with my little weekly report for the league, I’m doing it for them as a treat.

Don’t worry though, I haven’t forgotten there’s more I’m working on that’s for me personally. We can’t forget to love ourselves because that’s what’s so important to share with others who we are. Be free. Have random conversations with anyone because you never know just how much that could make their day… or yours!

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Less is more… when trying to pay attention

In conversation, or lecture, when a sort of wording or phrasing is said, it strikes something within me. Almost like a small epiphany. And that, more often than not, is a big reason why I have trouble paying attention. At least in school. But I am a great listener, typically in conversation. I have gotten better now but still find myself in very similar situations quite often. Just recently I was watching a video on YouTube and could not help myself wandering through my thoughts when I heard these words/phrasing in a sentence. In a way, it’s too thought-provoking. Even if the video can be easily understood.

Here’s the thing though, some people who do feel the same way, especially in conversation might almost interrupt the person they’re talking to. Which by the way, can be rude and sadly, I’ve been there myself. But from my past experiences with a certain type of herb that made me feel like I was on a cloud, I caught myself doing that. Now for the most part, I patiently wait. I let the person I’m having a conversation with finish their statement before chiming in. See… people can change. Just take me for example. And if you don’t think that’s enough proof… my answer to that is, “trust me, bro.”

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Honesty Goes a Long Ways

So, I met this woman who was sitting across the bar from me one night. She couldn’t take her eyes off of me. I know that look when I see it and wanted to find out more. As curiosity crossed my mind, I went over to introduce myself. And after getting to know each other, with a few drinks later, we went back to her place. Just because my place is a mess and I’m not proud of myself. It’s okay though, it’s probably just my depression. Anyway, back to my story. We’re back at her place and continued our conversation with a night cap. I got a little too comfortable where a fart slipped out. As embarrassed as I was, she didn’t seem to mind. Just giggled. Shortly after the smell went away, we hooked up.

Here’s the thing: the story I told, was a lie. And now you’re probably disappointed with me. But that’s okay (maybe), because I’ve had to deal with that one too many times. If you have friends that do this to you often, it makes it difficult to care what they tell you considering you don’t know if you want to believe what they have to say or what stories they tell. So, why bother?

The story that I told, still holds a lot of truth behind it. Apart from going back to the woman’s place that I mentioned, and thus leading to me manifesting the fart part, this was a really short story. Besides giving you a detailed description of my messy apartment, I was just drinking at a bar. So, what actually happened was…

“I was having a drink at the bar and noticed this woman across from me. She gave me this look. I like to call it the look of desire. So, I went over to introduce myself and as we got to know a little bit about each other, my night ended with me going home alone.”

The moral of the story is that I don’t have a clue how to close. I guess it’s just something that I never got over. Always afraid of rejection and lacking the courage to do so. However, I do enjoy conversating with people, especially if it’s a small group or a one-on-one situation. It just feels more personal.

I like to consider myself a people pleaser. I know it may not sound like a good thing, but it’s not all bad though. Just want to shine a little light onto people no matter what kind of day they are having. This whole thing is really about understanding where people are coming from. We all have a way about us that makes us do or say things that can be good or bad. But telling the truth is better than building up one lie after another. And if you want to keep certain things to yourself, by all means. Everyone should be entitled to their privacy. What you want to share is up to you.

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