Are you finally ready to be on your own? Whether you’re leaving your parents/guardian’s place, or no longer in need of roommates, the decision to go at it alone is more complicated than it seems. As someone who has gone through just that, and still is, it’s been a struggle. I really should have checked with my mom before even considering the option to move out. But being that I was under a certain situation, it felt like I didn’t even have a choice. When you take an underdeveloped mind from a person, manipulation can come pretty easy. Either way, your parents or guardians are most likely going to be the best option for this life changing decision. I was nowhere near close to moving out when I did. It was difficult for me already just to clean up after myself. Which could be the reason chores exist. If you do them well, you’re on your way out the door. As much as I would like to be better when it comes to cleaning up after cooking, doing laundry, or bathroom duties, it might just be easier for me to hire a maid. So, moral of the story is, if you are terrible at keeping your place clean and you have money, get yourself a maid. At least until you decide you want to make some changes that’ll make you feel better. And don’t worry, it should be strictly professional. You’re more than welcome to fantasize about what your version of a maid is to you.
First Blog/Lao New Year
Where does my story begin? That’s hard to say, considering there were many events in my life that were memorable. Having to pick just one is difficult to start with. But the least I could do is tell you a little bit about myself. I’m 33 years old and just recently celebrated Lao New Year with my family. For Thanksgiving I was in charge of making the turkey of which I burnt… just once. And there was another time I undercooked it… I’m getting better. Practice makes progress.
There was one time I had a shoe thrown at my head, going to a wedding dressed exactly like the waiters. Now I am one as of today. Sort of. Had an amazing trip to Florida with one of my previous employers to be a part of a thing they called Team Rally. I was a stripper for a night, escaped from a party we started and I farted in front of a girl I had just met. These are to name a few of many stories I’ll be sharing in detail, in the near future.
Lao New Year
Let’s start with one of my most recent memory. I went to my mom’s to celebrate the Pi Mai. We had the Sou Khaan(a blessing in having a happy and healthy life) which is where someone is saying good prayers for you while tying a white string around your wrist(s). The Lao Buddhist tradition has it where you typically have both hands together sitting flat, then you bow down to honor the one that prays for you. Or so I believe. I haven’t been paying as much attention to my ancestors religion the older I got. You do however have to sit in almost any other position than crossed legged or Indian style, which can get very uncomfortable after a long period of time. Normally during a Thuk Baht ceremony(people offering food for the monks for blessing them).
We then had ourselves some pho. Afterwards, I helped my brother-in-law move a mattress and dresser to his and my sister’s place. I spent some time with one of my nieces and one of my other sisters was later going to grill some chicken and fajitas, which told me only one thing… that I was staying longer. While waiting for the food, I got to spend some quality time with my sister’s boyfriend before heading home for the night. The conversations we had felt real. I had a great time talking to Derrick. We shared stories, had some laughs. I even told him and my sister about my fart story… Overall, it was exactly how Ice Cube explained it, “Today was a good day.” I got to spend some time with my family, bonded with my sister’s boyfriend and eat some really good food. As simple as it was, it was memorable.
That night I learned a part of what it’s like to be a parent. Derrick has a kid with my sister. And that made me think of my friends with their kids, and understanding from their perspective what it’s like not having as much free time as they used to. Not seeing it from their point of view. I never understood until this night why it was so difficult hanging out. So the very few times we are able to get together for events and whatnot, I just want to make the most of it. Just cherish the moments with the people you surround yourself with. I hope you enjoyed reading this as I enjoyed writing it. Until the next one.